Monday, February 17, 2014

Negotiating Tips For People Pleasers

I'll admit it. I'm sort of a people pleaser. I'm not a complete push over, but I highly value harmony in my personal  and professional life. This past year in business school I've taken two negotiation classes that I've really enjoyed. In the classes, when we would do mock negotiations, it became painfully obvious to me that my people pleasing can get me a terrible deal in a negotiation. Here are my top tips I've learned to help people pleasers like me not get a raw deal in negotiations.

Guy smiling holding a piece of paper that says yes

Prepare. If you do your homework beforehand, you'll know when you get past the point a deal is worth it for you. (This is called a it to learn more). You can be confident going into a negotiation that you have a very strict walking away price and won't let your need to find harmony put you in a worse situation than where you started.

Team up. Bring someone into the negotiation that likes a little bit of conflict. It will balance you out and keep you in check if you're settling too quickly.

funny meme about partnership, showing a bear fishing with a person

Avoid in-person meetings.  If you tend to cave when you're in person, send a proxy, do it over the phone or maybe even email. It's really easy to hold your ground when you're not there in person. It's harder to read social cues through those mediums, but it might be worth it for a people pleaser.

Be optimistic. For a lot of people pleasers, this just makes you more comfortable. In tough situations, remind whoever you are negotiating with that you are still optimistic you'll be able to reach a deal.

Eagle trying to carry away a huge turtle

Take a timeout. It's like a timeout in basketball, if you feel the heat from the other side and it makes you want to settle, just kill the momentum by taking a break. If you're on the spot, say you need a class of water or need to go to the bathroom.

a nba player trying to call a timeout from the floor

Negotiating well is a skill. Even if it does not come naturally, with effort and a little bit of practice, you can greatly improve your skills. If you want to learn more, I recommend "The Truth About Negotiations" by Leigh Thompson

Cover of truth about negotiations book by Leigh Thompson


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  2. The act of knowing how to negotiate is really beneficial to a business man. As a business professional, I completely understand the importance of negotiating and how it is beneficial for our business firms. In the case of dealing with clients, business customers, and candidates, we all need a strong negotiating skill. From this article also, we learn some basic tips on negotiating, thanks for such wonderful tips.
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  3. Hey! Vielen dank für das teilen dieses nützlichen artikels, ich lese diesen blog wirklich gerne! Aber was ist mit dem studium, mathematik ist überhaupt nicht mein spiel. Deshalb lasse ich meine studienarbeiten von dieser schreibagentur kontrollieren (hier problemstellung bachelorarbeit beispiel). Es arbeitet fleißig daran, hervorragende arbeit zu leisten. Termin eingehalten und top-aualität produziert. Ich würde sehr raten!